Power eye contact pdf

Michael Ellsberg 9 books 34 followers. Search review text. I decided to read this because I read an interesting article on Tim Ferriss' blog about eye contact that was guest written by this author. The article was fascinating and made some good points.

I realized Ellsberg also was the author of another recent book that I planned to read - The Education of Millionaires. That book is about highly successful people unburdened by a college diploma. As I'm completely over-educated with an abundance of college credits but no degree, I never picked a major because I had too many interests the idea of such a book appealed to me.

So I'm really quite annoyed that this book on Eye Contact stunk as much as it did. I realize that sounds harsh, but this book deserves the criticism. I have a really hard time NOT finishing a book.

I don't have a normal relationship with books, I tend to devour them whole. Even if it's dreadful, some punishing part of myself forces me to trudge onward and finish. That said, I gave up about 30 pages from the ending and skimmed. My initial worry was, would the subject of eye contact really have enough content to justify I book? The answer, at least for this author, is a resounding NO. Every interesting tidbit found in this book was something I read previously in that brief blog post I mentioned earlier.

In fact, in many ways the post was better. With an absence of content or real thought on the subject, the author instead resorts to filler. He interviews a bunch of people with some passing semblance of expertise in the area, and just dumps their quotes into the chapters verbatim. He references so many other books, that it becomes annoying It's a lazy move. I feel like he was just filling pages. If you took out all the direct quotes, snippets of poems, and lengthy passages of books he quoted, his actual writing probably would only fill 40 pages or so.

You know it's getting bad when the author has to quote from his own father, who wrote a book that had nothing to do about eye contact.

At that point I was really rolling my eyes and was assured we had reached bottom, but no, he later quotes his mom as well. He frequently brings up his fiance mostly just to remind us he has one, because rarely do the stories involving her add anything to the point he's writing about.

He comes off like lovesick puppy eager to show off his conquest. Who cares? Most annoying though was his habit of self-reverentially telling us he was writing this book That's a paraphrase, not an actual quote, but you get the picture. He also frequently would justify going off-topic by using clever devices such as "you may wonder what this has to do with eye contact" followed by a bunch of gibberish that didn't justify the diversion at all.

Again, lazy, exhausting writing. I felt embarrassed for the guy. The book is full of contradictions, poorly executed thoughts, and many digressions that seem utterly pointless. I finally reached a point of annoyance where I realized it wasn't worth my time to finish the book - I had already wasted too much time hoping the author would redeem himself at some point.

I get the overwhelming feeling this is an individual who's read so many books he feels like it's his turn to cash in and write his own. The fact that he didn't really have anything to say or a subject that was deep enough for meaningful, insightful research wasn't going to be enough to stop him. It should have. The book closes with an epilogue revealing that during the course of writing this book, he was diagnosed with testicular cancer.

He says over the course of dealing with this he realized that "I have written all kinds of things that, in the hindsight of months or years, seemed frivolous, trivial, or irreverent. This whole story comes off so phoney and cheesy. The Power of Eye Contact is your concise guide to harnessing the potent force of eye contact. Master this force and you will notice three things: You meet more people. Your connections deepen with family, friends, and business prospects. We only see what we look at.

To look is an act of choice. To touch something is to situate oneself in relation to it. Close your eyes, move round the room. Fullcontact,whenImeetyoufull-eyed,full-bodiedandfull-minded, you may become irresistible and engulfing.

In contactingyou, I wager my independent existence,butonly through the contact function. Of all the ways we communicate, eye contact maybe the most powerful. The first step in establishing communication is eye contact. Communication with pets and animals is with eye contact, and depending on the animal you maintain or avoid contact.

It can make the heart dance for joy. Words will probably never be found to communicate what actually transpires when you are communicating with another living creature through eye contact. Eye contact shows personal involvement and creates intimate bonds. Mutual gazing narrows physical gaps. It brings people closer. The look of love; remember that look and the physical wham when wordlessly you knew you were attracted. Eye contact says to the other person: I am interested in you I respect you I trust you You have my attention I value you.

Then there is the avoidance of eye contact like the elevator stare. Fear of making eye contact with strangers and wild animals. Eye contact can be perceived as a challenge a precursor to aggression. We probe each others eyes for mood signs like: Trust can be developed almost immediately through eye contact. Flirting a coy glance can be the beginning of all sorts of things Bonding eye contact immediately brings two people closer Feedback on how others are receiving you.

Winking says you and I know. Our eyes are wonderful gifts. Not maintaining eye contact in this country carries the connotation that the person is not trustworthy. Eye contact gives you valuable clues as to what a person is thinking. Kinesthetic people tend to look down Visual people tend to look up Auditory people tend to look sideways People who look left to gather thoughts tend to be religious, artistic.

They are most likely remembering. People who look to the right tend to be scientific People who look up and right may be constructing or making up an answer. People who are autistic or have social anxiety problems experience trouble maintaining eye contact as do liars.

When might you want to make eye contact? When you want to say hello without a word. Walking down a dark alley Face to face with a bear or other predatory animal While driving. Maintaining eye contact helps keep you focused on what the other person is saying; rather than thinking ahead to what you want to say.

In our society there is an increased need for interaction. Think of the joy you can spread by making eye contact and a smiling at the checker in the store, the wait person, or a passer by on the street.

Wee Dilts is a teacher, counselor, a psychologist and a life long student and teacher of metaphysic. She has written numerous self help articles, ebooks and sales training courses. She is dedicated to helping you live a richer fuller life. Get life changing free articles, view self help ebooks, and profit as an affiliate. One of the things we talk about in Presentation and Communication generally is the power of eye contact.

People simply listen better to someone who has given them eye contact because they feel connected. Without it, you may as well record your message and sent it because it does play such a vital part in getting a message across. Have you ever been to a presentation where you felt that the speaker was singling you out in a positive way?

Never once did she give any eye contact to her eager audience.